Warning signs, or overreacting?
Hey all, this is a little different than a straight up confirmed inferiority case, but I’m definitely in a grey area right now. I have a bad feeling, but I wanted to post this to get some other advice, to see all of what could be going on, and how I should go about this.
Hey all, I hope this is a good place to post this, I’ve been lurking for a while.
I’ll try to break this down as simply as I possible can, but basically I am engaged (F23) to my soon-to-be husband (M29) and there are a few things that have happened that have made me question if I’m overthinking things, or it is weighing on me for a reason.
For some background information, I absolutely love my fiancée to death and he treats me wonderfully, I truly have never felt love like this before. However, I’ve also had very little relationship experience before him, so my wisdom on certain things is cloudy.
First, I’ve noticed lately that He seems to be using telegram more often. I know that he uses the app, but it seems to be much more common now, and I feel like each time I get really close to him, he seems to close out of the tab each time (one thing that struck me as odd, since he doesn’t do this to me with other tabs).
He also has a highly disproportionate amount of female friends online. His best friends are female, and his follower count in other platforms is heavily dominated by female followers. While he compliments me all of the time as well, he also comments on other women’s (online, not in real life) attractiveness and sex appeal quite a bit (again, I wouldn’t say that crosses the line into "cheating" but it has made me uncomfortable on a few occasions, depending on the comments he’s made).
Again, he’s incredibly affectionate with me, and I should also add that he doesn’t exhibit the typical red flag behaviors with his phone (I know how to unlock it, and he isn’t super defensive with it). After going through this sub though, something on my heart told me to ask for a second opinion, and if any advice could be given to me (or if I am genuinely being overreactive about all of this) please let me know.
thank you so much
1 comment posted: Sunday, August 16th, 2026
