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Lol- I love the Pareto reference. The job I just left was a Pareto chart factory. They wanted one for almost every decision. Sorry for the threadjack but it made me giggle (also you are also right)

I remember when I was a teen and got caught shoplifting - I had to do community service at a place that otherwise people freely volunteered at. I did the same tasks that the volunteers did. None of those volunteers had to track their hours spent at the facility, and get those hours signed off by the head person. Guess who did have to do that? Me.

At no point did I ever consider that other volunteers should have to also track their time, let alone have resentment for them not having to do it.

[This message edited by RuminationPro at 10:57 AM, Saturday, April 5th]

I'm sorry but I think he's still cheating and wanting you to drop the accountability so he can meet his AP. He does not love you.

Zorak

Your very few words struck a chord with me and while I’m pretty good at biting my tongue and "taking what I need and leave the rest" I needed to respond to your uneducated, ignorant comment.

My dday was approximately 18 months ago and I’m very aware that I’m still early in my healing process and while still early, not only have I come along way, I wholeheartedly believe my H has made even greater (more positive) strides at becoming a better version of himself.

No need to be "sorry" … while he has proven to be a liar and cheater (like every other WS) on SI, he has hit his rock bottom and would rather d!e then put his family through it again (or even himself for that matter).

His accountability/transparency, my accountability/transparency and our combined accountability/transparency for our M is not an issue on whether him, myself or we want to do it.

His infidelity was over indefinitely as of dday. Was he a liar and a cheater, YES. Is he currently a liar and cheater, NO.

I would also like to know how YOU know that my H doesn’t love me? Where are you receiving this information?

As "weird" as it might sound, for the 15 years we have been together, it’s the past 18 months that I genuinely feel, see and know the depth and authenticity of his love for me and the family we created.

I’m not really sure what the purpose was behind your comment 🤷🏻‍♀️